After a career in business Ineke Koedam (1963) came in 2000 to a turning-point in her life. After a shortened study at the University of Humanistic Studies she started her own practice in 2003 Weerschijn, for dying and bereavement’. Subsequently, she worked as a volunteer and coordinator at Hospice De Vier Vogels in Rotterdam. She explored the ideas of Elisabeth Kübler - Ross and Christine Longaker and finds it most important ‘to have the inner self in order’ .... Read more
In the light of death, experiences on the threshold between life and death
with a foreword by Pim van Lommel and an afterword by Peter Fenwick
Having learned from those who experience near death, it is time we became more sensitive to the dying process. We need to move out of the phase where medical personnel consider experiences reflect the dying person’s pathology. The frequency of these so-called end-of-life experiences means that we can no longer take this attitude or continue to ignore them.
On behalf of prominent Neuropsychiatrist Peter Fenwick, Ineke Koedam, an experienced hospice worker, researched these ‘end-of-life- experiences’. She interviewed fellow hospice workers in various hospices and bundled their experiences together in this unique book.
A dying man clearly sees his deceased wife and even can talk with her. A dying woman who has been in a deep coma, suddenly becomes alert enough to coherently say goodbye to loved ones at the bedside.
End-of-life experiences are - without exception - miraculous.
What others said about the book
This book has a foreword by Pim van Lommel and an afterword by Peter Fenwick, which is a strong recommendation in itself. The author is an experienced hospice worker who helped Peter with his research in Holland. Pim sees the process of acceptance and surrender as essential to dying and a time for reconciliation and resolution by way of inner preparation. The general pattern is one of transition from one reality to another, as also reported in earlier studies. The dying frequently find themselves between two worlds, as becomes apparent from the many extracts in this book. The short chapters cover a wide variety of themes also found in Peter’s earlier work but in more detail. Hospice workers have a special role to play, especially if they are aware of the kinds of experiences related in this book. An important insight is the need to slow down and become calm, something we can all apply before we face this transition ourselves, making time for silence. The experiences are charged with meaning and convey a very different understanding of death to contemporary neuroscience. In a chapter on the process of dying, I found it particularly interesting to read about the departure of the five elements from the physical body as it dehydrates and is unable to maintain proper circulation. Air is the final element to leave as we breathe our last. This is a sensitive and highly informative book.
A sensitive and highly informative book, David Lorimer
Thanks for your lovely book. It is a heart-felt work that will bring much light, love and comfort to this world.